
After discussing my latest blog "Slipsies," I decided to continue my research and gain a little information from a guy's perspective.
Annie: So, how do you think people, with the best of intentions, end up crossing boundaries?
Guy: Well, from what I've seen, you both need to be willing to not cross boundaries. If a guy pushes a girl every time he is with her, or is constantly pushing the envelope she will probably eventually give in . . .
Annie: That's a little easy don't you think? Guy's are that irresistible?
Guy: If you put the guy in a "lead" role, and you are looking to him to guide the relationship and you want to make him happy . . . all of a sudden you may find yourself being guided down the wrong path.
Annie: SO IT's ALL THE GUY's FAULT!?!?
Guy: It does take two . . . but you rarely have a girl pushing and begging a guy. Of course there will be girls who will push for sex - but maybe she is pushing for a reason. Maybe she wants more from the relationship and she is trying to connect through sex to get the commitment she wants. A guy doesn't try to further a relationship through sex, they just want sex.
Annie: What about this thing where girls want sex just as much as guys? What if they are pushing guys for sex?
Guy: (Laughing) Are you kidding? You watch too many movies. I mean I have had girls come on to me but geez . . . why is she so forward? Sounds kind of desperate. (Laughs again)
Annie: So would it work? Is it a turn on?
Guy: Look we like sex, sex is great . . . but its not going to make us like you.
Annie: Tell me more . . .
Guy: Bottom line - we are human, sometimes we make a bad call or a bad impromptu decision because you're so hot and I want you . . . ultimately you're not mine and the girl should be worth the wait. I've got sisters and I can't imagine just using a girl because I was feeling a little lonely or because she was smokin hot.
Annie: Worth the wait.
Guy: Oh yeah and he breaks the girl's trust. If you are trusting a guy to lead, whether starting a relationship or you are in a relationship, and he leads you down this path where he gets to play around with your body - how can you trust him? Especially if he was in agreement on waiting in the first place.
Annie: So in summary - you find a person who believes you are worth the wait, then as a girl, you wait to see if the guy really means it?
Guy: Pretty much. Does he respect you? Is he trustworthy? Is he good on his word? Girls get manipulated into thinking that its their fault that the guy caved. Nope. Those girls just bought a bill of goods. We can control ourselves. I'm not an animal. And I would want her to think of me as a strong man who could control himself.
Well you heard it from a guy's perspective ladies. So girls - don't shoot yourself in the foot. You're worth the wait.
Any thoughts? I love hearing different perspectives!
Annie
P.S. Guys - you're cover is blown! ;)